Love each other. Understand each other's faith.
Our Faith Together is a six-week master class that gives married and engaged couples a shared language for faith — without asking either of you to pretend, perform, or give up what's true to you.
"Unity doesn't ask you to pretend — it asks you to understand, and that is something you can actually learn."
— Your Guide Team
What you'll learn
What you'll be able to do
- Articulate your own Faith Signature — the specific way you most naturally encounter God — and name your partner's with accuracy and generosity.
- Trace the inherited, chosen, and quietly held beliefs each of you brought into the marriage and understand how they shape your everyday expectations.
- Distinguish conviction-level differences from style-and-taste differences, and stop spending the same emotional energy on both.
- Apply five structured listening moves that replace defensive debate with genuine curiosity before disagreement escalates.
- Co-create one shared spiritual practice that both spouses can enter honestly — not one tolerating the other's — and evaluate it by fruit over thirty days.
- Use the Our Faith Together Map™ to locate your meeting points, your blind spots, and the bridge practices uniquely available to your particular pairing.
How it works
A course that adapts to you
This isn't a set of static videos. Every lesson is generated live and tuned to where you actually are.
We learn your level
A quick placement check tailors your starting point so you're never bored or lost.
Lessons adapt as you go
Each lesson is written for your pace and your goal, adjusting as your skills grow.
Your online coach keeps you moving
Checkpoints, feedback, and gentle nudges turn progress into a real result.
The curriculum
What's inside your school
6 modules · 26 lessons
The Faith You Carry
Couples surface the inherited, chosen, and quietly held beliefs each spouse brought into the marriage — and learn why familiar faith so easily masquerades as universal faith.
- 1.1What Faith Felt Like Before You Could Name ItIncluded
- 1.2Inherited, Chosen, Rejected, and Still Held TenderlyIncluded
- 1.3Familiar Faith vs. Universal FaithIncluded
- 1.4Your First Guided ConversationIncluded
Discover Your Faith Signature™
Each spouse independently completes the Faith Signature Discovery™ to identify the specific mode — worship, presence, surrender, service, or personal relationship — through which they most naturally encounter God.
- 2.1Taking the Faith Signature Discovery™Included
- 2.2Understanding Your Primary PatternIncluded
- 2.3The Gift and the Blind SpotIncluded
- 2.4Your Second Guided ConversationIncluded
Put the Two Side by Side
Couples lay their Faith Signatures next to each other on the Our Faith Together Map™ to locate shared ground, complementary gifts, and predictable friction points — then choose one bridge practice built on territory both spouses genuinely inhabit.
- 3.1Reading the Our Faith Together Map™Included
- 3.2Where You Already MeetIncluded
- 3.3What Your Spouse Brings That You Cannot Reach AloneIncluded
- 3.4Where Your Patterns Predictably RubIncluded
- 3.5Choosing Your Bridge PracticeIncluded
Style, Tradition, and Conviction
Couples learn to sort their faith differences by type — distinguishing matters of personal taste and tradition from matters of genuine conscience — so they stop misapplying the same emotional intensity to very different kinds of disagreements.
- 4.1Not Every Difference Is the Same Kind of DifferenceIncluded
- 4.2Mapping Your Own Differences onto the TiersIncluded
- 4.3When Taste Gets Treated as ConvictionIncluded
- 4.4When Conviction Gets Dismissed as TasteIncluded
- 4.5Your Fourth Guided ConversationIncluded
Understand Before You Defend
Couples replace defensive debate with structured curiosity by learning five listening moves and the single question — 'What good thing are you afraid of losing?' — that reframes almost every faith disagreement.
- 5.1Why Better Arguments Are Usually Not the AnswerIncluded
- 5.2The Five Listening MovesIncluded
- 5.3The Question That Changes EverythingIncluded
- 5.4Your Fifth Guided ConversationIncluded
Build One Shared Practice
Couples finalize, launch, and evaluate a single shared spiritual practice that both spouses can enter honestly — testing it over thirty days and measuring it by fruit rather than initial enthusiasm.
- 6.1What Makes a Practice Genuinely SharedIncluded
- 6.2Designing Your Thirty-Day PracticeIncluded
- 6.3Measuring by Fruit, Not EnthusiasmIncluded
- 6.4Your Sixth Guided Conversation and the Path ForwardIncluded
Who it's for
Is this you?
The Interfaith Newlywed
Married less than two years into a cross-denominational relationship, he wants to build something shared before small frictions become entrenched habits.
The Quietly Drifted Spouse
She still calls herself Christian but her faith looks different now than when she married, and she needs language for that shift before it widens the gap.
The Long-Married Husband
Decades in, he and his wife have worked around the faith differences rather than through them — and he's finally ready to name what's actually going on.
The Engaged Planner
Getting married in months, she'd rather build a shared foundation now than discover the gaps on the other side of the altar.
The Reluctant Participant
His wife found this first — he's skeptical — but he loves her enough to try, and the non-jargon, no-pressure tone keeps him in the room.
The Widowed Remarried Believer
Entering a second marriage later in life with deeply formed faith habits, she wants to understand how two mature spiritual histories can become a shared life.
Questions
Frequently asked
Your teacher
A note from your teacher
Your Guide Team
If you're reading this, I imagine you've already had the conversation — the one where someone says something that sounds like a criticism of the other's faith, even though that wasn't the intention. Or you've sat in a pew (or not sat in a pew) feeling quietly alone beside the person you love most. Or you've just quietly avoided the subject entirely, because it feels too tender and too loaded, and you don't know where to start without it going sideways.
I want you to know: that silence, or that friction, is not a sign that something is broken in your marriage. It's a sign that you're two real people, with real histories, and the ordinary tools most of us have been given for talking about faith weren't designed for the kind of intimacy a marriage requires.
I built Our Faith Together because I kept sitting with couples who had every ingredient for a strong marriage — love, respect, genuine shared values — and yet faith had become a source of low-grade distance between them. Not a crisis. Just a gap. And what I noticed, again and again, was that the gap wasn't really about theology. It was about not having language. Not knowing how to say this is how I meet God in a way your spouse could actually hear. Not knowing how to listen to their answer without your defenses quietly rising.
The Faith Signature Discovery™ grew out of that observation. When couples could name their own pattern — and then read each other's with real accuracy and generosity — something shifted. Not overnight. But genuinely. The Our Faith Together Map™ came next: a way to see not just your differences, but where you already meet, and what becomes available to you because you're different. These aren't theoretical frameworks. They're tools that came from real conversations with real couples in real tension.
What I promise you in these six weeks is not a uniform faith. I'm not interested in helping one of you quietly win. What I want for you is a marriage where both of your souls have an honest place — and where you've built, together, at least one practice that belongs to both of you. That's a achievable thing. I've watched couples do it. And I'd love to walk you through it.
— Your Guide Team
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